Monday, September 29, 2008

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back


Nothing hurts and messes up your life quite like a bad breakup. Your boyfriend calling it quits is pretty devastating, so it's only natural you'll want him back. It can seem impossible at times, and it's certainly daunting at first, but if you take heed of these tips I'm about to give you it won't be long before you're back in his arms again.

First thing to do is recognize that you two need a break. One of the biggest reasons men often end relationships is that they're feeling confined and "chained down." If he's feeling this way to the extent that he feels it's necessary to break up with you, let him go. Everybody needs some breathing room sometimes, and allowing the separation will give him time to think and you time to plan.

It'll be a hard for a couple of weeks initially, but you have to keep yourself together. Breakup depression can lead to some nasty things like insomnia, binge-eating, and apathy for pretty much everything. It's important to keep living your life during this time. Don't allow the breakup to ruin your life.

Don't close off your connections to the outside world. Continue to go to work and connect with friends and family. Surrounding yourself with familiar and friendly faces will help you get through the initial depression and survive the time you're apart from your ex. Once you've gotten a handle on yourself, it's time to really focus on getting him back.

Guys are fairly simple in comparison to women. We're driven by more base of instincts and needs...I'm not just talking about intimacy, but the general role we often need to play in a relationship. Most men need a fair amount of space, even if we're happily willing to compromise some of it to spend time with you. Panicking from lack of this space can be a large factor in most male-initiated breakups.

We're also genetically programmed to be "the stronger sex." This doesn't mean we're all chauvinists, it just means we need to feel important and like "providers." Being admired or respected makes us feel good, and if we don't feel like our woman sees us in this way it can be hard on us. There's a genetic need to "take care of you," so sometimes too strong of a woman can be intimidating and for some can start us looking for an exit.

These are all things that need to be considered when in a relationship with a guy. If you really love him, a lot of this can come naturally but at times you may have to remind yourself of these things. They're just as important to him as it is for you to feel appreciated and have your feelings considered and respected. If you want to get him back, you'll have to analyze yourself and your relationship and take these into consideration. If your relationship is to work, this has to be a part of it. At the core, it's fairly simple and keeping a man happy in a relationship doesn't have to be difficult...most of us are pretty forgiving too, so getting a second chance doesn't have to prove difficult either.

Well, those are the basic ground rules. For more specific tips about the actual processes involved in how to get your ex boyfriend back in magic of making up system, check out the free articles and info at http://www.getyourexbacknow.com/. This journey can be a lot easier than it seems, and I wish you the best of luck on finding happiness again with the man you love.

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